This is the situation I was in when I heard about kickboxer Andrew Tate's pronouncements about depression. Here's how it started, in his own words:
It's seldom that I've seen someone pack so much bullshit in to so few words.
First, depression is not sadness. They're not even close to the same thing. I'm "sad" when it's cold and rainy on a day I wanted to go for a run. I'm "sad" when a friend cancels a get-together I'd been looking forward to. I'm "sad" when my dog is sick.
Depression, on the other hand, affects everything. It doesn't matter what's going on around you. It doesn't matter how many friends you have or how your job is going or what the weather is. Depression makes everything colorless. Worse, it makes everything -- even the things you know are important -- seem pointless, not worth the trouble.
So you can't just "move on." You can't just "change it." If it was that simple, there would be no depressed people in the entire world.
Depressed person: I feel like life's not worth living any more.
Psychologist: Stop feeling sad.
No-longer-depressed person: Oh! Wow! Thank you! I'm all better now! Doctor, you're amazing!So as you can imagine, Tate received quite a well-deserved backlash for his idiotic statement. But as you might expect from someone who makes a living beating the absolute shit out of other people, this just made him double down on his original position. Here are his followup comments:
- There are very few fat lonely man [sic], aged 60. With no money or family or hobbys [sic]. Who arnt [sic] depressed -- this is not a clinical disease.
- It is a circumstance which they must change. Most "depressed" people are unhappy with their lives, too lazy to change it. That simple.
- Then they pretend they caught some disease to absolve all responsibilities. ITS [sic] NOT MY FAULT IM [sic] SAD. Yes it is.
- People will do anything to absolve responsibilities. ITS [sic] NOT MY FAULT IM [sic] POOR/SAD/FAT/STUPID. Yes it is.
- So people defend depression. They get angry when I say this. Because they need this bullshit to justify their own failures.
- By admitting I'm right, they need to work hard to make themselves happy. To avoid the work -- argue with me and pretend depression is a thing.
- Sure. Natural sometimes to FEEL depressed. It doesn't make it a DISEASE. I feel hungry sometimes. Then I change it.
- Modern think bullshit has made trillions giving anti depressant pills when all they need is a better diet, exercise and a life purpose.
- How can you be too depressed to work when people in war zones arnt [sic]? With dead family all around them?
- Now come back and call me names and defend your safety crutch with all you have. Or accept fact and change your life. The choice is yours.
So don't tell me "depression isn't real." Or that it's the same thing as "being sad." Or that it can be cured with work/exercise/diet.
Or that it's circumstantial, that it comes from being "unhappy with life." I have had depressive episodes when I was in horrible situations, bad relationships, stressful jobs. I have also had depressive episodes when everything in my life was going wonderfully. Depression might be easier to deal with when everything around you is good, when you have a support network and little external stress.
But that doesn't make it go away. Depression is internal, and (very likely) caused by alterations in neurotransmitter levels in the brain. If it could be cured by walking in the woods, I fucking well would have done that when I was 17 instead of swiping my parents' bottle of sleeping pills, then sitting there on my bed with a handful of them, gazing at them and chiding myself for not having the courage to swallow the whole lot.
I guess it's unreasonable of me to expect that celebrities are going to be any more likely to say smart things than stupid ones. They run the gamut of intelligence levels just like the rest of us. But dammit, given their visibility, they have a responsibility to think before they speak, to consider the effects their words will have. Whether it's reasonable or not, the public listens to them.
And the idea that an athlete like Andrew Tate could have, by his defiant ignorance and his insensitive and incorrect statements, shamed one person out of seeking help for depression is about as reprehensible as anything I can think of.