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Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Thoughts of a small-town atheist

Recently I was asked by a former student, who is now a graduate of Harvard University in the field of evolutionary biology, if I would write an article for The Harvard Humanist Community Project, a fine new organization supporting rationalists, humanists, skeptics, atheists, and agnostics in the Harvard community.  (You should check out their website, which has a great many interesting links.)  To say I was honored by her request is an understatement; the following was my contribution.


I am a high school teacher in a small, rural village in upstate New York. I’ve lived here for twenty years, and know pretty much everyone around here.

I am also an atheist.

It was some years after I moved here, from the safe anonymity of the big city, before I felt comfortable admitting my beliefs (or lack thereof). In fact, I actually attended the local Methodist church for a time, mostly on the prompting of my (now ex) wife, who felt that it was important to raise children in the social, ethical, and cultural setting that a church could offer. Contrast that with now, two decades later, when virtually everyone who knows me knows that I am an atheist.

Despite what a geometry teacher would tell you, getting from point A to point B seldom progresses in a straight line. I did not have a sudden “coming out,” where I went to the center of the village and made some kind of public proclamation of disbelief. It started out because, as a teacher of biology, I yearly face the daunting task of addressing students’ preconceived notions about evolution, and inevitably someone asks, “What religion do you belong to, Mr. Bonnet?” Even the phrasing of the question seems not to admit “None” as an answer; there is a tacit assumption of religiosity in this country, even in the relatively liberal part of it where I live, that makes a denial of faith seem almost like admitting to being some sort of pervert.

At first, I just dodged the question. “Why is that relevant?” was my standard response, mostly because few 10th graders had the wherewithal to come up with an answer to that question on the fly. The fact is, of course, it is relevant, just as the religions of the presidential candidates are relevant, however much we’d like to pretend as a nation that it isn’t true. And honestly, the deflection of the question was disingenuous, and left me with a sense of unease, a feeling that I had lost a teachable moment, not to mention left students with the impression that I was afraid to answer.

About twelve years ago, following a divorce, and perhaps feeling I had less to lose in the public eye after the very visible collapse of my marriage, I started answering the question by saying, “I’m an atheist. However, religion is outside the scope of this course – I’d be happy to discuss it with you another time, if you’d like.” This seemed to satisfy the majority of students, who (to be honest) probably had figured it out anyway. But it opened the door for the minority who were bound to see that as throwing down the gauntlet.

I’ve had letters written to me urging me to “confront my disbelief” and accept Jesus as my personal savior. I’ve been mailed piles of religious promotional materials. I’ve had a former student, once a skeptical rationalist but now a born-again, take it as his personal mission to save my soul. I’ve had parents who have asked the administration to place their children in the other biology teacher’s class, because she is “less hostile toward people with opposing views.” I even had, on one spectacularly frightening occasion, a man show up at my door and tell me that I was headed to hell because I “mislead young minds,” and he would be the one who would send me there, if need be. (I told the man to get the hell off my property, and called the police – and, fortunately, never saw or heard from him again.)

All of this has, on the one hand, made me more militant – my general reaction being, “I’ll be damned if I’ll be bullied.” On the other, it’s made me wonder why atheism is viewed with such hostility. It’s not like the majority of us are saying you can’t believe in god if you want to – by and large, atheists are a pretty live-and-let-live bunch. It more seems to be that people are bothered by someone calmly and rationally looking at all of the religious choices out there, and simply smiling and saying, “No thanks. I don’t want any of them, thank you.” It offends a lot of religious people, I think, because it implies that even given the smorgasbord of dishes, we atheists would prefer to forgo dinner completely.

In a well-publicized survey, it was found that when asked if Americans would vote for a person who was an atheist, a smaller percentage responded “yes” than did for almost any other stigmatized group. Muslims, homosexuals, even convicted felons garnered more “yes” votes than atheists did. When these results appeared in the press, I made a fairly aghast comment about it on Facebook, and a woman who was one of my high school classmates responded, “I agree! I wouldn’t vote for an atheist! How can you have any ethics or morals if you don’t believe in God?”

Well that, to quote Tolkien, needed a week’s answer or else none. Sensing a losing battle, I elected the latter, all of which goes to illustrate that I’m not as self-confident as I could be. It has been, and continues to be, a process of growth – toward, I hope, a position of respecting others while simultaneously never allowing myself to be browbeaten into silence again.

Toward that end, a little over two years ago I started a blog called Skeptophilia, intended to explore the rationalist’s view of life, with a bit of humor frequently thrown in. What at first began as a way for me to express myself in a public forum has grown to have a significant regular following – I am currently zooming toward 50,000 lifetime hits. More important to me personally is that I have a number of current and former students who are regular readers, and have contributed topics on many occasions. This gives me hope – that given exposure to rational, skeptical views, people will respond positively.

And also toward that end, I am here, at the invitation of another former student of mine. I hope to continue to contribute to the cause of humanism in whatever way I can. I may never be a Hitchens or a Dawkins, making headlines and fighting the big battles, but if I can in some small way add my voice to those championing the rationalist viewpoint, I will have succeeded.


  1. I see you were up late. Probably fretting about your lack of a moral compass. ;-)

  2. I agree with everything you've said here, and I've experienced some of the same ignorance from others. There have been numerous times where I was able to be friends with people, do things with them, and then they find out I'm Atheist and suddenly, they're not interested in knowing me anymore. I always hear the 'if you don't believe in God, how can you have morals?' My response is generally a question; do you need the bible to tell you that taking another persons life is wrong? I actually believe that Atheists tend to have stronger moral character than people of a religious background. We aren't behaving while we are alive because we think we are saving our souls. We don't avoid wrongdoing simply because we might not get to hang out with Jesus when we die. We act morally because its what we know we should do. To take the life of another human who other people care about, or to take something from them that we didn't earn is something we wouldn't want done to us, and therefore we don't do it. We don't need any incentive other than what we do or don't do is right. I could write hundreds to thousands of pages on my probably limited views on Atheism and peoples reaction to it, but I'll stop there.

    I also want to mention that you were at least a part of my decision during high school to finally drop the religious nonsense that had been placed on me. I know I wasn't a great student (and by that I mean I'm sure I was a pain in the butt to have in class!), but your class was about logic, and the proof of what the world is, and how it interacts with itself and its inhabitants, at least thats what I was able to gather from it with my limited cognitive abilities! So while you may not be a Dawkins, you're having an affect on people, and it is at least in my view, a positive one.

  3. My best friend (brother?) is the son of a missionary/preacher. He goes to church/bible study 2-3 times a week. Very devout. I don't slam his Religion, he doesn't slam my lack thereof.

    To quote him the last time (about 5 years ago) we approached this often delicate subject:
    "So you think I am going to Hell?"
    "Yes. According to my Religion, you will."
    "Then how can you be friends with someone who is doomed?"
    "It's not my job to judge you. You're responsible for your own soul."

    Not being a Christian, but having a functional knowledge of it, I feel... blessed (har har) to have a friend who really does "what Jesus would do."

    Great article, sir.

  4. Fascinating stuff, and it surprises me to read about it happening in upstate New York (though I guess it's more likely to happen in the rural areas than in the Capital Region). I'm not sure how far you are from the Albany/Schenectady/Saratoga part of the state, but if you're ever in the area, we've got a pretty sizable atheist/agnostic meetup group that meets regularly. If it's not too much of a hike for you, we'd love to see you around.

    1. Also: Feel free to drop me a line at if you need a fellow upstater to talk to!

  5. I had a small epiphany when starting to read the paragraph about being more militant.

    On a regular basis, we see (mostly republican) politicians go on a crusade against homosexuality. When this happens, it's usually only a matter of time before they come out of the closet.

    Could it be that the strong reactions to your atheism are from 'god fearing' people who are themselves atheists at heart and just don't want to admit it to themselves, so they try to create a society hostile to atheism?

    1. That's an interesting point. While the True Believers I've been confronted with seem awfully sure of themselves, it has often crossed my mind that if they are as convinced as they say that they're right and that god is omnipotent and all-powerful, why would they (and god) be threatened by my puny little efforts?